I am sorry that I have only just noticed a comment added to my blog on the Steven Davies coming out posting. Anonymous wrote:
I am always jealous of people like this. I am 37 years old and completely closeted. I am depressed at the thought of being in the closet for ever. I cant have a relationship for fear of people finding out I am gay, especially my parents and brothers. They would not accept it. And I fear that I have left it so long, that my friends would be unhappy with me for keeping my gay side from them
One night stands dont do it for me any more. Anyone have any suggestions?
Based on the limited information above, all I can say is that this is a tough one, I am sure you will agree. My advice would be twofold: firstly, if you actually want to come out, make a plan and consider all possible outcomes. Secondly, perhaps consider going to a support group or finding a friend who can support you. The "problem" will not go away by itself and life is too short to be depressed. If your friends and family don't have a clue about your sexuality, I would be surprised and you may well find out that they are more accepting than you think.
I know people who are closeted in a similar way (at first I thought it was one who had left the comment) - I am sure that it is depressing and must limit their ability to be happy. I don't intend turning the blog into Ask Stephen as I don't have all of the answers. I am certainly not a perfect "out and proud" gay man as I am not out at work.
I open this one up to my readers...